I would definitely say that being FAT is a huge and heavy problem. But there are lots of big, obese, overweight, fat people who defend the idea of "Don't worry, just be happy, no matter what your body looks like". I would certainly agree with that if we considered that we all have to do everything we can to make our body healthier because it is were we truly live in, and the best we take care of it, the longest we can live. That´s the self love that I can talk about. Plus, nobody should judge a person who is apparently overweight by saying that one is lazy, does not exercise, only eats junk or something like that, because that is not only cruel, it can be unfair, since we know some of than are already in the middle of their way to health, or maybe is having a relapse in the whole process of fighting scale. We all know that everyone goes through UPs and DOWNs in life and behind anyone can exist a fighter who is achieving a goal little by little, taking baby steps and getting up after some falls. I would say that some people are born to be FAT. What do I mean ? I mean that all the forces push them into obesity and they probably have issues like slow metabolism, diabetes, polycystic ovary syndrome (POS), eating disorders maybe caused by depression or childhood traumas, conditions that make obesity even harder. The thing is we are not talking about people that just love eating besides anything else, we are talking about people who have a serious disease. However, I know that the most of fat people keep giving everyone, including themselves, excuses to be like that, blaming their health problems but not doing anything to change. They think it is easier, and I would guess they do that because they have never experienced the glory of having had fought and won the obesity once, also, they are always told that is ok to be like that since they are happy, or they think nobody believes they are able to lose weight so they take that as true and do not even try. Even though we know that some people feel sexual attraction towards fat ones, they usually are skinny and do not know how it is to live inside a big body. Also, I would say everyone deserves to be with someone who loves them not a partner that have just a sexual feeling for you. The one who loves you would think about your health on first place. I can say more, hardly you will find a person who is happy with their own fat body, I doubt that someone would choose being in a huge and heavy body instead of in a regular weight one. That is not prejudice, that is reality. The difference between the sick obese person and the fat fighter that has gone through lots of relapses is that the first one has never tried and the second one has never given up. Nobody can say it can be easy or ultimate. You can lose 100 pound and then you can double it, because this fight will never end. That is why you can never take it as done. The biggest mistake of us who keep falling into traps and gaining weight again, is that when we have any kind of problem that makes us unsteady, we end up forgetting for a moment that we are never going to be cured and we cannot lose focus. First of all we have to admit we can't eat or live as a natural skinny person, so in case we bend we can fix up again. Second, we have to do our best to not get out of trek because it is even harder to get back. Third, we have to exercise as much as we can and learn about food and how to manage the energy we eat, because we need to spend more than we put in. So when you are not able to spend much, we will know how to eat less choosing the right food.
Based on all that I just said, I totally disagree if someone tells me that a fat person can live like any other skinny one since they accept their condition. That's bullshit. Man, it is so hard to be fat, that only the ones who has gone trough this situation can know. It is hard to run, it is hard to walk or even to move. When it is hot, it is even hotter for fat ones. You get aches all over your body, it's hard even to breath. It feels like your arms and your legs are getting shorter and you can't reach things. When you fall it seems impossible to get up, considering that being fat is already a very risky and suitable condition for fallings. What about Clothes? They never fit ok. When you are fat you get embarrassed by entering lots of stores until you find something that will be in your size, and probably you won't think its cute, so that is not helpful when it comes to self confidence and beauty, that means you won't feel like doing much to be good looking. When we are fat we feel miserable by facing the mirror. It is like punishment so we avoid it. We also avoid doing things like looking in people eyes because we are going to see them checking us up and down and that is not comfortable. And that is not all, you also feel bad about not fitting places, like chairs, cars, narrow halls, or maybe you will be to heavy to wear high heels, to step on ladders, to lie down on massage tables, to have fun on some rides at amusement parks, etc. The whole thing will cooperate to make you hate yourself unless you take one of these two decisions: change your life and struggle fatness or mislead yourself like it is ok, close your eyes and keep pushing you to death. I bet that even people who seems happy into fat bodies, who wear whatever they want to, even two pieces bathing suit, they likely cry behind the scenes. At last, I say for sure that those who keep pretending they are fully happy being fat, plus, continue eating crap and making their body become a huge cocoon they are miserable most all the time. So instead of encouraging them to be happy with it, all friends and family should help them to take the first step and support them to keep going day by day, because that can save their life.
